Why I Chose to Keep My Baby’s Photos Off of the Internet

As I mom I enjoy reading posts of mommy life and in moderation I love scrolling through the photos of other moms I follow to see how their babies have grown/are growing. I enjoy the real, gritty photos along with the bright, airy, staged and edited ones!

Pre-baby I came to the decision that I did not want to post photos of my little one on the internet – is that strange? I did not know many moms who felt the same – and there is nothing wrong with it! But, it being personal choice, these were/are my reasons!

Once It’s There, It Could Be Forever

I see the internet is this big pile of stuff, some useful, some garbage and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger yet never really going away. I am sure if I looked hard enough I could find an old website or two I created back in high school full of blurry, web cam photos and me wearing too much eyeliner! Hey, at least it’s nothing scandalous. Whenever I post I do so as if I am releasing something into cyberspace, possibly forever.

Who Could Be Looking?

While the majority of humans are well-meaning and harmless, it’s a little weird to think that absolutely anyone can look over a photo you post without your knowledge. For me, if it’s business related it doesn’t really matter (a fashion post never hurt anyone!) but when it comes to little J, I wanted to keep his photos between my close friends and family. As a blogger I of course love sharing tidbits of our life together, but as for his visual identity I am leaving it up to him to post when he is old enough to decide. Heck, his future boss could be googling him someday!

I Am An 80’s Baby

I think part of the decision is me also attempting to give him a little bit of what I experienced as a young child in the sense that there was no internet and things were just a little less “groomed”. My parents would use their (film) camera with no digital display, take a photo and hope for the best. We would only know what it really looked like once we developed it. Call me old fashioned but I kind of like how none of my childhood photos are edited or perfect. The lighting might be a bit off, there is usually clutter in the background but that was life.

Photos of J are for me to remember how it really was rather than a display of artistic perfection. Once in awhile I create an airy, clean shot but for most of my photos of him I intentionally don’t tidy up before snapping them! So it goes without saying when it comes to posting online – my parents never did as the option didn’t exist. My childhood was sacred!  I do think it’s very convenient to email or share photos privately to relatives across the country. Even the odd text. Again, nothing wrong with those who find it in their best interest to share publicly. (I really like looking at cute babies).

For mums that feel similar on the privacy front, I was told about tiny beans – a place to privately share your photos in a safe space. I have not yet created an account but it seems like an excellent idea, especially for those with friends and family who cannot always be present in person!

In closing, I do want to mention that my thoughts may change as he grows but as of yet I have not been tempted to publish his photos and my reasons still stand. I have an album which I keep my developed pics in for friends to look at when they come over and it’s really fun. Everything is so fast-paced it’s kinda nice to slow down and do things a little differently.

Moms – what are your thoughts on sharing your baby photos on the internet? All the time, in moderation, or not at all?

xo

Cover Photo Credit: Miss Kyree Loves

 

 

5 Comments
  1. Reply Sohnee November 13, 2017 at 2:15 pm

    I love this! My one friend uses Tiny Beans and another uses Shutterfly. Either way, *I* get to choose when I want to see their kids and it doesn’t fill up all of my social media. I also completely agree with your reasons for keeping J off the internet; ultimately, it sounds like a way to keep him safe and his childhood protected.

    I don’t have kids yet, but if I do, I plan on doing the same.

    • Reply Joanna November 13, 2017 at 7:59 pm

      I completely agree with the photos filling up your feeds! I don’t want to be the mom that posts 10 times a day for every single new update haha! I do enjoy viewing photos in moderation – some moms have really great captions too! But yes, my son’s photos will stay old school. 🙂

  2. Reply Elaine November 14, 2017 at 2:14 am

    This is a touchy subject for me – for reasons I won’t get into! I agree with your points but obviously I’ve put T on the web. It wasn’t a thoughtless decision on my part though – I document EVERYTHING of his and share photos with our family daily using Tinybeans but also just whatsapp. I also keep very special moments for myself so that I can look back on the special times we have together and so that one day he can hopefully look back and see how much he is loved.

    • Reply Joanna November 14, 2017 at 3:48 am

      Yes I love seeing pics of Theo – and they are very tasteful! It’s all just a matter of what each individual is comfortable with, along with of course respecting that their child is an individual with an identity and a future (which you clearly do)! That is so sweet about the special moments…I hope some day J will be able to look back and feel the same 🙂

  3. Reply Tracey November 16, 2017 at 3:57 am

    Totally support you on this. Thanks for sharing!

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