Why I Chose to Keep My Baby’s Photos Off of the Internet
4 months ago 7 Comments
As I mom I enjoy reading posts of mommy life and in moderation I love scrolling through the photos of other moms I follow to see how their babies have grown/are growing. I enjoy the real, gritty photos along with the bright, airy, staged and edited ones!
Pre-baby I came to the decision that I did not want to post photos of my little one on the internet – is that strange? I did not know many moms who felt the same – and there is nothing wrong with it! But, it being personal choice, these were/are my reasons!
Once It’s There, It Could Be Forever
I see the internet is this big pile of stuff, some useful, some garbage and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger yet never really going away. I am sure if I looked hard enough I could find an old website or two I created back in high school full of blurry, web cam photos and me wearing too much eyeliner! Hey, at least it’s nothing scandalous. Whenever I post I do so as if I am releasing something into cyberspace, possibly forever.
Who Could Be Looking?
While the majority of humans are well-meaning and harmless, it’s a little weird to think that absolutely anyone can look over a photo you post without your knowledge. For me, if it’s business related it doesn’t really matter (a fashion post never hurt anyone!) but when it comes to little J, I wanted to keep his photos between my close friends and family. As a blogger I of course love sharing tidbits of our life together, but as for his visual identity I am leaving it up to him to post when he is old enough to decide. Heck, his future boss could be googling him someday!
I Am An 80’s Baby
I think part of the decision is me also attempting to give him a little bit of what I experienced as a young child in the sense that there was no internet and things were just a little less “groomed”. My parents would use their (film) camera with no digital display, take a photo and hope for the best. We would only know what it really looked like once we developed it. Call me old fashioned but I kind of like how none of my childhood photos are edited or perfect. The lighting might be a bit off, there is usually clutter in the background but that was life.
Photos of J are for me to remember how it really was rather than a display of artistic perfection. Once in awhile I create an airy, clean shot but for most of my photos of him I intentionally don’t tidy up before snapping them! So it goes without saying when it comes to posting online – my parents never did as the option didn’t exist. My childhood was sacred! I do think it’s very convenient to email or share photos privately to relatives across the country. Even the odd text. Again, nothing wrong with those who find it in their best interest to share publicly. (I really like looking at cute babies).
For mums that feel similar on the privacy front, I was told about tiny beans – a place to privately share your photos in a safe space. I have not yet created an account but it seems like an excellent idea, especially for those with friends and family who cannot always be present in person!
In closing, I do want to mention that my thoughts may change as he grows but as of yet I have not been tempted to publish his photos and my reasons still stand. I have an album which I keep my developed pics in for friends to look at when they come over and it’s really fun. Everything is so fast-paced it’s kinda nice to slow down and do things a little differently.
Moms – what are your thoughts on sharing your baby photos on the internet? All the time, in moderation, or not at all?
Cover Photo Credit: Miss Kyree Loves